Why the Fall Season Can Trigger Unexpected Emotions in Motherhood
As the leaves begin to change and the crisp air rolls in, many of us welcome fall with a sense of coziness and nostalgia. But for some mothers, this seasonal shift brings more than just pumpkin spice and colorful trees—it can stir up deep, unexpected emotions that are hard to name or explain.
If you've found yourself feeling more weepy, anxious, or even overwhelmed this time of year, you're not alone. In fact, there's a deeper psychological and emotional connection between the fall season and maternal mental health.
Let’s explore why…
Shorter Days, Longer Shadows
The transition into fall also means less daylight, which can significantly affect mood and energy levels.
Many moms experience:
Increased fatigue
Irritability or feelings of being "off"
Sadness that deepens as the sun sets earlier
This shift, coupled with the emotional labor of parenting, can exacerbate feelings of isolation—especially for stay-at-home moms or those with limited support.
For some, this may be a sign of Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) or a milder seasonal mood shift that deserves compassionate attention.
The "Perfect Fall Mom" Myth
Fall is a highly romanticized season in our culture. Social media overflows with apple-picking photos, coordinated Halloween costumes, and elaborate crafts. While these can be fun, they also create unrealistic expectations.
You may feel:
Like you’re falling short if your reality doesn't look picture-perfect
Pressure to do “all the things” while juggling exhaustion, mental health, or logistical challenges
Shame or guilt for not feeling festive
This invisible load can add stress to an already demanding season of motherhood.
The Pressure of the Pending Holiday Season
As soon as October hits, there’s a quiet but growing hum in the background: the holidays are coming.
While fall can feel grounding and peaceful, it also signals the approach of a time that’s often filled with expectations, obligations, and emotional complexity—especially for mothers.
You may begin to feel:
Anticipatory stress about holiday planning, gift buying, travel, or family gatherings
Emotional overload from navigating family dynamics, grief, or memories of holidays that didn’t go as hoped
Guilt or pressure to create a “magical” experience for your children, even if you’re feeling depleted
The holiday season often demands more time, more energy, and more emotional labor—often from those who are already carrying the most.
For mothers in early postpartum, or those managing anxiety, depression, or burnout, this buildup can feel suffocating—weeks before the holidays even begin.
If fall feels heavier than expected this year, you’re not broken—you’re human. Here are a few gentle ways to support your emotional health:
Name what you’re feeling. Acknowledging your emotions is the first step in tending to them.
Honor anniversaries or difficult memories. Journaling, lighting a candle, or talking with a therapist can help bring meaning to hard moments.
Simplify fall traditions. Choose the few things that bring joy, and let go of the rest.
Get outside daily, even briefly. Sunlight, movement, and fresh air can gently lift mood.
Reach out. Whether to a friend, mom group, or therapist—connection is key during seasonal transitions.
Fall is a season of change, reflection, and release. As the trees let go of their leaves, you too are allowed to let go—of expectations, pressure, and old emotional burdens.
If this season brings up unexpected feelings, consider it an invitation: to slow down, tune in, and offer yourself the same grace you give your children.
You don’t have to walk through this season alone. Help is here, and healing is possible.